Today someone said something offensive about women. I tried to report it, but my Chief was too busy. "Not now" he said. I went to a first-class and she asked me if he was joking. I said "Does it matter?" I don't think it does. It shouldn't matter. Then she asked me if I told him that I thought what he said was offensive. That maybe he didn't know me well enough to know what he can and can't say in my presence.
The military wonders why there is such an issue with sexual harassment/assault in the military. The reason is reactions like this.It doesn't matter if he's joking or not. It doesn't matter if the people listening are okay with it. It's still a workplace.
I shouldn't have to go around announcing to everyone that I don't abide misogynistic comments.
I shouldn't have to go around telling everyone not to comment on how good I look since I've lost some weight.
I shouldn't have to tell people not to sneak up behind me and tickle me.
I shouldn't have to tell people not to show me pictures of naked people.
I shouldn't have to tell people not to massage my shoulders.
But I do.